Imagine a life where every fantasy becomes reality. Would conflicting wishes cancel each other or fight each other in a duel? Imagine a world run by our instinctual desires and day-dreams which don’t answer to the reality principle.
You have seen picture frames on the walls.
Frame is something concrete that separates the picture from the wall.
Psychoanalysis traditionally distinguishes between “fantasy” and “phantasy”, the former being a conscious and the latter – unconscious.
“… people occasionally fall ill precisely when a deeply-rooted and long-cherished wish has come to fulfilment. It seems then as though they were not able to tolerate their happiness.”
You may have heard the word “jealousy” at some point in your journey.
Freud wrote a lot about sibling rivalry for the parents’ attention, the child’s competition with one parent for the attention and love of the other, as well as of romantic jealousy in couples. He believed that the desire to have a beloved person all to ourselves is the most universal, complex and often unconscious psychological wish.
Seeing others as rivals whose presence is not desired often leads to unconscious fears of retaliation from them. To have to give up the desired status for someone whose claim is more valid can be an excruciating experience. However, thestronger the rival is, the easier it is to come to terms with the defeat, because nothing hurts more than losing to someone with whom we could have won.
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The path you chose to follow during your VR journey may suggest that you are sensitive to one of the most challenging of human emotions: jealousy – that of others, as well as your own. You may know its true colours and be quick to realize when it is being played out in any human scenarios. You can remain sensitive to any shifts in triangular dynamics e.g. when two people grow closer than the third party is with either of them.