Imagine a life where every fantasy becomes reality. Would conflicting wishes cancel each other or fight each other in a duel? Imagine a world run by our instinctual desires and day-dreams which don’t answer to the reality principle.
You have seen picture frames on the walls.
Frame is something concrete that separates the picture from the wall.
Psychoanalysis traditionally distinguishes between “fantasy” and “phantasy”, the former being a conscious and the latter – unconscious.
“… people occasionally fall ill precisely when a deeply-rooted and long-cherished wish has come to fulfilment. It seems then as though they were not able to tolerate their happiness.”
You may have heard the word “jealousy” at some point in your journey.
Freud wrote a lot about sibling rivalry for the parents’ attention, the child’s competition with one parent for the attention and love of the other, as well as of romantic jealousy in couples. He believed that the desire to have a beloved person all to ourselves is the most universal, complex and often unconscious psychological wish.
Seeing others as rivals whose presence is not desired often leads to unconscious fears of retaliation from them. To have to give up the desired status for someone whose claim is more valid can be an excruciating experience. However, thestronger the rival is, the easier it is to come to terms with the defeat, because nothing hurts more than losing to someone with whom we could have won.
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You may have noticed the sound of a song sung in Chinese.
Whose voice was it?
What was the singing person doing while singing? Was she focusing on communicating/projecting out something through her song or was it just an almost involuntary activity accompanying a more deliberate one?
Who was she? How old was she? What was she wearing?
What was her relation to the main character – was she his mother, lover, nanny, granny, sister, neighbour, friend, or someone else still?
Does the song represent something well-known and comforting? Or fascinating new? Affectionate or seductive? Or does it bring to mind an altogether different quality?
What makes you think this way? Does it remind you of any experiences or impressions in your own life? Have you ever been singing knowing that someone can hear you but not see you? Have you ever been captivated or tantalised by someone else’s singing?
The song’s lyrics were in Chinese. What do you imagine their meaning was?
Try to consider an alternative story about the unseen person – imagine she is different in age and motivation; that she is unknown or known to the main character in a different capacity.
What impression did the singing make on the other characters in the scene?
What impression did it make on you?
“A man who doubts his own love may, or rather must, doubt every lesser thing.” Freud
In the second part of the experience, you chose to follow the journey of one of the men whom you had seen in previous scenes.
Is he a strong character? What is he like when he is on his own? Does the presence of the others affect him in any way?
How would you feel if you met him in real life?
What is his struggling with? What are his desires?
What fantasies and concerns dominate his journey?
Is he happy in the end? Why or why not?
Perhaps our dreams do come true, but in forms which make us no longer recognize them?
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The path you chose to follow during your VR journey may suggest that you are sensitive to one of the most challenging of human emotions: jealousy – that of others, as well as your own. You may know its true colours and be quick to realize when it is being played out in any human scenarios. You can remain sensitive to any shifts in triangular dynamics e.g. when two people grow closer than the third party is with either of them.
The elements that captured you attention during your VR journey may point to your sensitivity, curiosity and openness to the world around you, which can captivate you without demanding answers. You can be capable of appreciating beauty and contemplating unknowingness and staying open to experience without the need for an immediate closure.