Imagine a life where every fantasy becomes reality. Would conflicting wishes cancel each other or fight each other in a duel? Imagine a world run by our instinctual desires and day-dreams which don’t answer to the reality principle.
You have seen picture frames on the walls.
Frame is something concrete that separates the picture from the wall.
Psychoanalysis traditionally distinguishes between “fantasy” and “phantasy”, the former being a conscious and the latter – unconscious.
“… people occasionally fall ill precisely when a deeply-rooted and long-cherished wish has come to fulfilment. It seems then as though they were not able to tolerate their happiness.”
You may have heard the word “jealousy” at some point in your journey.
Freud wrote a lot about sibling rivalry for the parents’ attention, the child’s competition with one parent for the attention and love of the other, as well as of romantic jealousy in couples. He believed that the desire to have a beloved person all to ourselves is the most universal, complex and often unconscious psychological wish.
Seeing others as rivals whose presence is not desired often leads to unconscious fears of retaliation from them. To have to give up the desired status for someone whose claim is more valid can be an excruciating experience. However, thestronger the rival is, the easier it is to come to terms with the defeat, because nothing hurts more than losing to someone with whom we could have won.
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What does it mean to become one’s daddy or a daddy? One’s mummy or a mummy?
Freud famously said: "the finding of an object is in fact a re-finding of it". He considered that romantic feelings always have a history and an inner life of their own. Falling in love, at any time in life, is accompanied by unearthing of a love that has already been experienced before – the complex psychological dynamics surrounding our early relationships often re-emerges, finding different forms and outlets. The way in which we love, observe and experience love as children has a profound, albeit non obvious impact on how we may love and be loved by others. Certain attitudes and roles, events – real or imagined – inspire and guide us, as we unconsciously expect others to respond to us in particular ways. We may be drawn to re-experiencing certain patterns or go to extreme lengths to avoid others.
“The subject identifies himself with someone else, so that he is in doubt as to which his self is, or substitutes the extraneous self for his own. In other words, there is a doubling, dividing and interchanging of the self, and finally there is the constant recurrence of the same thing – the repetition of the same features or character-traits or vicissitudes, of the same crimes, or even the same names through several consecutive generations.”
You may have noticed a heart in a cage. Whom does or did the heart belong to?
What comes to your mind when you think of it? Could it symbolise a new life? Maybe love? Or, given its roughness, is it more associated with ripping the heart out? A loss or death, perhaps?
Think about the cage. Is it imprisonment or protection? Or something else still?
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You have seen a scene where a man and a woman dance with a cage and a heart between them.
Which words could convey the woman’s experience and why?
Used for joy. Joyless. Estranged from joy. Overwhelmed by joy. Undisturbed by joy. Growing to enjoy. Joyful.
Your own? …………….
“Side by side with the exigencies of life, love is the great educator; and it is by the love of those nearest him that the incomplete human being is induced to respect the decrees of necessity and to spare himself the punishment that follows any infringement of them.”
The elements you chose to follow during your VR journey point to an interest in knowing the past in order to understand the present. You are not afraid to look back. Many people lack this capacity or appreciation for the past and how it continues to exercise its influence on them, but to you the past is important, even when it is difficult.
The path you chose to follow during your VR journey may suggest that you are sensitive to one of the most challenging of human emotions: jealousy – that of others, as well as your own. You may know its true colours and be quick to realize when it is being played out in any human scenarios. You can remain sensitive to any shifts in triangular dynamics e.g. when two people grow closer than the third party is with either of them.
The elements that captured your attention during your VR may suggest that you are sensitive to the suffering of others. Your empathy and compassion make you notice things which often pass unnoticed – in yourself and others. Under certain circumstances, other people’s suffering may matter more to you than your own joy.